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From winter hell, to random education, to winter hell, to a suite

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

My morning started in a winter drive with around 5 feet of visibility.  A decent speed of 40km/h was attained.  Unfortunately, I did have to dodge the oddball idiot travelling way too fast.  Luckily, they had a soft landing in the ditch.  The drive that should have lasted 2 hours took well over 4 hours.  After arriving at my destination, I was still quite early.  Seeing that I was at a University I have never been before (or the city), I decided to spend my extra time exploring.  This University (Queens) has a beautiful and old fashioned campus.  The first building I decided to explore was a converted church to auditorium.  It was amazing what they had inside.  The best part was a teacher giving lessons on how to play an organ.  I have always enjoyed listening and even watching someone play the organ.  What happened next came as a complete surprise:  I was asked if I would have liked to try!  There was no cost, no one in line and I had to put on little booties.  I told the teacher (I assume?) that I had no experience what so ever.  She said that was okay and I would have a free 10 minute lesson with only my feet.  I’m a slow learner, so I only got time to practice with my right foot.  It was *awesome*.   After that excitement was over (not really, I’m still excited 12 hours later), I explored the rest of the buildings, the library, the residence, everything I could possibly have time to walk.   I did some PR and managed to get more people to attend my presentation outside of the small expected audience (definitely a plus!).

After a great 3 hour presentation, it was time to go.  The snow storm got WORSE.  Visibility was reduced, the roads were covered in snow, and the transport truck drivers drove like wild idiots.  I watched a truck jackknife less than 100ft in front of me, I watched an SUV go sideways into the barrier and I followed a car that thought it would be safer to use two lanes, the shoulder, the other shoulder, back to the middle… It was not a fun drive.  Total driving time: 6 hours, expected time: 3 hours.  Chance of survival: 20%.

All is not all that bad.  Once I had arrived at my hotel, I was put in a luxury suite because they sold mine.  I am sitting here blogging on the 28th floor of a Sheraton, enjoying a great view of the city of Montreal.  Time to explore the street level and see what is going on in this busy city J 

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#! ’s…really well. (even geeks need loving)

Tuesday, February 5th, 2008

The first time with her was amazing.  Just watching her sitting there was incredible.  I felt safe with her next to me.  I held onto her and wanted her to also feel safe.  I started to massage her neck.  I continued to gently stroke her lips, watching them get firm with each rub.  I could not suppress that urge to caress her neck.  She turned towards me and tried to kiss me.  I offered a peck and backed away, teasing her slightly, and then finally moving in for the kiss.  I pulled away and gently removed her clothes.  I massaged her back, arms and legs.  I continued to massage her body until she could not handle the passion. 

How can one find a girl this amazing, with so much passion, and hold onto her?  A question I doubt to be answered anytime soon.  Was this experience even real?  Could I have dreamt this amazing experience?

The best moments of your life will forever be in your mind.  The question is this: when telling other people your best experience, is there a difference between you actually living it or dreaming it?

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Giving good blow…to a breathalyzer

Sunday, February 3rd, 2008

3:30AM rolled around and I was driving with cruise control on my way home.  I had a good night out with friends, played some board games and had tea.  No, it was not your typical Saturday night of partying.  Preparing for my flight the next day, I generally can never get to sleep.  Something about being stressed about the littlest of things keeps me up the entire time.  So, I pull an allnighter and relax. 

Getting back to the drive home, I get pulled over by our finest state trooper in WA.  Completely understandable; it is past 3am and it is indeed a Saturday night.  What came next, was not as expected:  A breathalyzer test!  I had not taken a single drink of alcohol tonight, which apparently would have made things easier.  Scoring a nice level of 0 causes the officer to make you test a few more times to make sure things are working properly.

After he concluded I was *safe*, he decided to give me a lecture on the dangers of drink driving.  I was not sure what he was trying to get at, but he was very graphical about removing my body from the side of the highway if I ever did decide to drink and drive.

From now on, I should carry a small mickey with me and take a shot just before getting pulled over… should make for an interesting at the station, with no alcohol in your blood by the time you get blood tested :)

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Getting over one girl is not always as simple as getting under another

Thursday, January 31st, 2008

Today’s posting is going to focus on three specific relationship scenarios.  We got our couples who are just into each other, the couples who do not share the same craze and the couples who simply hate each other.  I am not going to focus on the couples who are just into each other (eg: freshly dating) or the ones who hate each other (eg: the married ones).

It seems to almost always go like this: person A really likes person B, but person B feels leeched on and pushes person A back.  Person A cannot have person B, without pushing away person B, losing person A, and thus completing the cycle of life.  Generally, if person A does back off this cycle usually reverses itself.  However, and generally, person A is never truly able to back off and we are still stuck on this ever winding downhill tumble.  An interesting sign of dependence can be seen when person B does not feel as loved when person A does not feel as strongly as they once did (see 1).  I will have to include a slight reference for my blog posting, as I cannot take 100% credit for some of these facts. 

Why am I blogging this?  It is this special scenario that always gets me going in circles: Person A really likes person B, person B does not want person A (eg: too clingy, possible fear of being hurt), yet person A keeps getting the attention of person C/D/et al.  Psychologically and physically, person A can definitely take on C+n, at the cost of person B now being desirous.  By this time, it is too late for person A to be with person B, as if person A did go back with person B, there is a high likelihood of person B taking the role of person A (see 2).

What goes on in my mind, and I always ask myself this time and time again, what should one do?  Move on with your life, go after what you believe is right until the very end (eg: it’s just too damn expensive emotionally/economically to keep up, they get married to your best friend or run off with your sister)?  Should one just move on at first opportunity and follow the path of getting over by getting under?  Or should you do your best to be there for them until you no longer feel that same way?  If you wait it out, improve yourself, become a better person; chances are, you may finally get what you want, but it would have already been too late…you’ve moved on.

1-      (Norman, McKenna, Heyman. (2000). Couples’ shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78, 273–284.)

2-      Korotayev, World Religions and Social Evolution of the Old World Oikumene Civilizations: A Cross-cultural Perspective, Lewiston, NY: E. Mellen Press. ISBN 0-7734-6310-0. 

 

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A new domain brought into life!

Thursday, January 31st, 2008

After some thought, boredom and recent interest in writing again, I decided to start a new blog.  I did not just want a new subdomain, I wanted something entirely different!  A new domain!  Going forward, I may maintain two blogs, a semi serious, random posting of knowledge (ed: no comment) on simpletofind.ca and stories of life over at my new site.  Or, maybe I’ll just migrate over and use categories properly (or overly abused).

Until I get DNS all sorted out, do not expect anything to be working as expected.  Also, once the DNS excuse is over, I need to install and setup a server.  Once that is done, feel free to head on over and enjoy.  Please, do not forget to stop by and say hello.  Unless you are a spammer, you can rot in hell.

Domain name?  unexplicable.com!

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Ladies night out…+1

Wednesday, January 30th, 2008

So I am sitting here, in downtown, late at night with no way home.  What better way to kill time then to write a blog (and see if I can make sense while intoxicated).  Today I was invited out and it was a ladies night out.  Being a male, a few warning lights should have gone off, I should have known better.  After getting liquored up, we went out to get more liquor.  After having some really manly drinks (Apple-tini’s) our conversation took a focus on human sexuality.  Being a curious guy and scholar, I had to dive right in.  I must admit, human sexuality is one of my passions (amongst other things) and I just had to see how far the conversation could have gone.  This brings us to today’s blog posting!  (sorry, we’re skipping the psychology dissertation for yet another day)

The girls had fun explaining their view and I’m here to summarize.  What started with “The woman’s view on penis sizes and how men use it” turned into a conversation about men they want.  This conversation could have turned for the worse (with me crying to my mother), but it was civil.  Apparently, I was not the only one with some sex education; one of the ladies studied human anatomy and psychology for 4 years!  Seems like our discussion focused on what differentiates men from boys.  Men, they take care of their women, making sure to please them, foreplay, and a lot of attention.  Boys, on the other hand, get on and get off.  One observation noted was that getting the girl and keeping the girl are very separate scenarios.  For example, pricks that women do not want in the long run seem get women interested and nice guys try way too hard.  Generally, there is an obvious comparison between boys and pricks, and nice guys and men.  However, for men to keep getting laid, they have learned to adapt.  Be a great guy, pick up and dump.  It is almost the perfect scam, only the SEC will not get involved.  Genuine nice guys, on the other hand, almost never land the right girl.  They seem to get pulled into the trap of a praying mantis, get their head held onto and ripped off when they least expect it.  The girls agreed: while they would love to find a great guy, there is no way to know how they are until it is generally too late.  Moving along to keeping a guy (from the women’s perspective, again), seemed to bring very interesting comments.  Apparently, contrary to physical physiology, women are great runners!  I was told numerous times tonight (and remember reading countless psych papers) that generally, when a women falls for the right guy, she feels so terrified, so much at the thought of losing him, that she’ll sabotage the relationship and try to get out of being hurt.  The male is stuck in his very own catch-22 situation: back off, and the girl may want him, get closer, and the girl will surely push him away.  There is only so much he can do to without going crazy himself.       
Of course, by the time the nice guy does get over his feelings for the woman he lost, she’ll either want him back or he’ll have found his own praying mantis.  The cycle continues.

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